My life as a teacher and a parent
“Let me tell you how schools work” chirped Sara. She’s 7 years old, an opinionated, feisty girl with a great sense of judgment and a crazy sense of humour. And, pretty much like all people I meet on a professional basis (I am an educationist- I meet parents, teachers, school trustees, policy makers, and of course, students on an every day basis), Sara too is an expert about what’s good and bad about schools. Her father (yours truly) gets access to a school going kid and her friends for doing research and analysis about schools on an everyday basis. I feel good ideas for schooling can come from almost anyone. I get best of my ideas in due course of conversation with parents, teachers, and of course, Sara and her friends.
For most people, where the child studies and what all they should be educated about is one of the most personal decision that can be made. Therefore, it is imperative for schools and parents to have a sort of partnership to feed off each other in the best interest of their wards. It’s important to realise- to use a cricket analogy- that the school and parents are essentially batting for the same team. Don't run each other out; bat sensibly and you'll score the required runs to win!
I feel that for most times, for teachers at schools, parents are either their best friends or their worst enemies. I have worked with some of the most progressive teachers, admittedly some not-so-good ones, a very difficult set of parents, and the easy going ones. On the whole, I strongly believe that most parents do an absolutely fabulous job with their children. More importantly, most parents make an honest effort to try their best. Yes, we make mistakes, and learn as we move along. Teachers complain about parents who meddle too much and those who can't be found. Parents say that educators claim to want more involvement but that they belittle their suggestions
Being in a not-so-common position of being an educator and a parent, I feel kind of obligated to share some tips and anecdotes which may be useful for one and all. I’ll focus on the basics and go deep into specific issues as well move along in the coming weeks.
One: Teachers, stop using jargons
Two: Be involved and stay involved, parents
Three: Don’t dismiss complainers, don’t get over-friendly with parents either
Four: Don’t badmouth or criticise teachers in front of kids
Five: Engage the parents
Six: Be supportive
It’s the nature of the beast- children can often be devious by nature, sometimes for the heck of it for fun, and at times because they get buckled under pressure and assume there are punitive measures in store for them. Lines get blurry. Sometimes you get the analysis on the child bang on for the buck, sometimes it's off-base. Doesn't matter, just keep at it. I often get Sara wrong, and so do her teachers. Many times, we are bang on our judgment. Sara's parents and teachers consciously stay on the same page and work together alleviate this opportunity for assumptions and misconceptions. Whatever we do, neither the parent nor the teacher make excuses for Sara, nor do we take away credit from the child for whatever little or big she achieves. We respectfully discuss differences of opinion, keep in touch and start working on a collaborative plan for Sara. We celebrate her successes and failures with equal gusto.
I can say with professional confidence and personal experience, you’ll make tremendous in-roads into the shaping of beautiful minds of children when teachers and parents join hands and work in-sync. The roles are often interchangeable, and parents who teach and teachers who look after children as their own, often make substantial difference in the society. Do this little bit selfishly for your children (as a parent, or as a teacher) and you would've made a very positive difference to the society at large,
Until next time - Happy teaching, happy parenting! :)